Going through a divorce is one of the most stressful life events a person can endure. Divorce is often messy, and feelings of resentment, bitterness, and anger against a person’s spouse can make the process even more painful. Sometimes, divorce can become downright nasty. However, there is no rule that says that the divorce process must be terrible. In Illinois, the law encourages a cooperative, negotiated divorce as opposed to a fiercely litigated one. A collaborative and amicable divorce is possible, and it can help pave the way for a brighter future for you and your family.
Cooperation Puts You in Control
When the individuals getting divorced are willing to work together instead of against each other, the divorce process is much more under their control. Cooperation of the spouses means that both of them have a say in how the process unfolds and what decisions are made. An amicable divorce allows spouses to create a workable agreement that addresses each person’s needs and concerns. Furthermore, if both parties have a say in the agreement they are both more likely to stick with it. Most individuals are inclined to comply with rules and decisions that they helped make, so issues like custody and property division, ideally, should be discussed together.
Setting an Example
Another benefit of a cooperative divorce is the example it sets for the children involved. No doubt, spouses who are in the midst of a divorce have personal issues and vendettas against each other. However, working together and putting emotions and pettiness aside in order to come to a solution is the best example of cooperation a parent could ever teach. It is important for children to know that while their parents may not agree with each other or want to live together, that they can still maintain respect and civility for each other.
When parents divorce, it is different than when individuals without children divorce. Parents will still have to be in each other’s lives for the benefit of their children. Together, they will have to figure out drop off and pick up schedules, deal with in-laws and grandparents, and attend school events together. Striving to maintain respect for each other during the divorce process sets a foundation of respect for the future.
Let Us Help You
An important part of making the divorce process as smooth as possible is hiring an attorney who you can trust. Our compassionate, knowledgeable Kane County family law attorneys can help you navigate the divorce process in the most effective way possible. Call 630-377-7770 to schedule your free initial consultation at Bochte, Kuzniar & Navigato, P.C., today.