While it might sound silly to say, there is no age requirement for getting a divorce—at least not for a legally valid marriage. Most people tend to think of divorce as something that relatively older couples have to contend with, but the possibility of divorce exists for any couple, regardless of age.
It is true that divorces among couples in their 40s, 50s, or beyond may be prompted by midlife crises or empty-nest syndrome, but these are far from the only reasons that a couple may seek a divorce. Younger couples, such as those in their early to mid-20s may pursue a divorce, for example, because they quickly realized that their relationship was not built to last. Instead of suffering through decades of unhappiness, a younger couple may end their marriage sooner than later, leaving the ex-spouses to face a variety of unique difficulties, especially if they have children.
After a divorce, it is unhealthy to completely cut yourself off from friends and social interactions. Some young divorcees find it fairly easy to get back into their old social scene while others may struggle. If you became completely wrapped up in your marriage at the expense of your friends and social relationships, you may find it challenging to rekindle those friendships. If you have children, things may be even more difficult.
Divorced and single parents often have precious little time to foster a social life. You may want to hang out with your old friends again, but unless they have children too, you may have trouble making schedules work. It can be equally difficult to remain friends with couples or families that you and your spouse befriended as a couple, as those friends may feel awkward about “choosing sides.”
The Post-Divorce Relationship
You and your ex got divorced for a reason—many reasons, most likely. This means you probably do not see eye to eye on many important issues. If you have children together, a divorce will not mark the end of your relationship. It may be the conclusion of a particular chapter in your lives, but you will need to work together in raising your children for the next 10 to 15 years or more. Even if you and your spouse parted amicably and remained friends, co-parenting will always present some measure of challenge to divorced parents.
As you put together your parenting plan, keep in mind that both you and your ex-spouse deserve the opportunity to pursue things that make you happy. This could be reflected in flexible parenting time schedules that allow each of you to be social and engage in new hobbies. Perhaps the most important element of your new relationship with your ex, however, is respect. You are no longer married to one another, but that does not mean you cannot support each other as you both look to build happier lives.
Seek Legal Guidance
At Bochte, Kuzniar & Navigato, P.C., our experienced Kane County family law attorneys are dedicated to assisting families like yours create a better future. We provide quality legal representation while addressing your needs and goals. To learn more about our firm and how we can help you, contact a member of our team. Call 630-377-7770 for a free consultation today.